From sisters to cousins, to best friends forever (BFFs) and your childhood friends; choosing your bridesmaids is probably one of the toughest decisions you have to make for your wedding.
The hardest part is probably thinking how to not hurt your girl friends’ feelings when you decide not to include them in your sisterhood.
If you think about it, it’s YOUR wedding and it’s YOUR big day. You need a group of girls you can count on to help you the most magical, yet nerve-wrecking day ever.
So before you select your bridesmaid, be sure to ask yourself these 6 major questions.
1) How big of a bridal party do you and your husband want?
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Both bridal parties don’t have to match, but do keep the difference to a minimal. An 8 vs 2 ratio will seem odd
2) How long have you been friends with her, and do you see yourself being friends 15 years down the road? Or 20 years?
For the biggest event of your life, it’s obvious you have to choose the ladies that mean the most in your life.
I’m referring to friends that you’ve been through thick & thin with and you know you can count on them even if the sky falls down.
3) Does she have the making of a bridesmaid?
A bridesmaid is not just a girl who stands with you in a pretty dress on your wedding day; your entourage of bridesmaids should be your best biggest support ever.
As your wedding approaches, you’ll most probably experience emotional and mental meltdown from the tremendous stress of planning.
Your “sisters” should be there for you to give you emotional support and have the initiative to help you as much as possible.
It’s a plus if you have a couple of girl friends who are always positive and generally the happy pills of the group; so they’ll keep pumping positive energy throughout the whole process.
4) Bridesmaid roles and responsibilities; what are they and who is suitable to do what
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She may be the most positive person in the room, but is she willing to work really hard on your wedding day? And what are her strengths that you lack yourself?
Some people are very meticulous to details but they are not doers, whereas some lack creative directions but they are very responsible and you can trust them to get things done. Play to the strengths of your girl friends to help you ensure a smooth wedding.
Especially when you don’t intend to get a wedding planner/co-ordinator, are these girls willing to take time off to help you plan and organise your wedding?
5) Do your bridesmaids know each other?
If your besties come from different social groups, do them a favour; organise a simple outing to help break the ice!
When your girls are warmed up to each other, it’s easier for them to communicate with each other.
6) Is she supportive of your marriage?
This is probably the MOST important question that needs to be answered.
Your bridesmaids are there to support your biggest life decision to your life-long happiness; and of course hold you accountable for your vows.
So they should be delighted that you are marring the love of your life.
But if she’s not a big fan of you fiancé, or never supportive of your relationship, then she’s probably not suitable to be in your bridal party.
Hopefully these questions will help guide you on selecting your bridesmaid.
Stay tuned for our upcoming post on the types of bridesmaids you want to avoid!